Making Mistakes - Limiting Beliefs

Making mistakes is something many people do everything they can to avoid. They hope that what they do will be 'perfect' and bring the results they hope for and are disappointed when it doesn't. They feel they are a failure because of their mistakes.

Many of us have heard some of these lines - 'practice makes perfect', 'if at first you don't succeed, try, try again', 'learn from your mistakes', 'the worst mistake you could ever make is to never try in the first place' and I could go on for a long time writing these sayings... why? Because failure is not the worst thing in the world and many people want to share that knowledge with others.

Somehow while we are growing up, we begin to feel like we are somehow inferior to others because we made a mistake. In school is the likely source of this limiting belief. We begin to think that any mistake we make is a bad thing, something to feel shame about because we were laughed at by the class. We fail to realize that those who laughed at us were also laughed at when they made a mistake. We only focus on the experience that creates the limiting belief as it affects us rather than the entire context of the situation.

As we grow with that limiting belief filling our conscious and sub conscious mind, we begin to shy away from experiences that can cause us to go outside of our comfort zone, such as being able to make a mistake and move on from that point. We begin to see the fear of making mistakes take over and we stop taking risks. We stop doing things that may lead to a mistake.

 

Some people procrastinate in an effort to avoid making a mistake. They feel that they will avoid mistakes if they avoid doing tasks they need to do. They overlook the simple fact that they failed to do, which can be worse than doing and not being perfect.

Some people make excuses for their mistake as if justifying the mistake makes the mistake 'better'. They fail to see that by simply owning the mistake and learning from the mistake they are better for it. Justifying a mistake is simply a way for them to blame others or situations for the mistake. Why is this a better thing to do for them? Many answers to that, but it simply comes down to their limiting beliefs. They think that to blame someone or something else is going to make them look less responsible. It doesn't. Hard truth here, no one buys your justification and it does in fact make you look worse than simply admitting "I made a mistake."

Some people out and out blame others. They believe they wouldn't have made that mistake if 'so and so hadn't done this' or 'you are trying to make me look bad', 'or you are just trying to find a reason to be mad at me'. Nope, not exactly true. A mistake is a mistake. If you make a mistake, then you are the one who made the mistake and therefore the responsibility falls on you, not on the person who notices the mistake.

Some people will pretend a mistake didn't happen. I know you have seen this before... everyone can see you made the mistake, even witnessed the mistake and you will argue the fact that 1. it didn't happen. 2. it didn't happen like the 'witnesses' to the mistake saw it. 3. it didn't happen because you don't see it as a mistake. A good example is someone who is driving with three others in the car. The driver runs a red light. Not goes through the intersection as the yellow turns red, but blatantly runs through the light as it is red. All three passengers saw it as they were seeing their life flash before their eyes, the other cars in the intersection that honked at the driver, the other cars slamming on their brakes saw it as they tried to avoid hitting the driver while being hit by others... and the driver claims to their dying breath... "It wasn't red when I went through it". Yes, there is some denial, justification, blame, and other issues happening all at once, but hey... it wasn't a mistake and it wasn't there fault... you are seeing things.

There are worse things than just ignoring a mistake... like doing the mistake over and over again and thinking no one is going to be tired of you doing the same mistake over and over again... especially if directed at the same person. We see this in passive-aggressive people... they will make the same type of hurtful comments, justify, blame, pretend the mistake didn't happen, and continue to destroy relationships and then cannot understand when the person they aim this behavior to is tired of it. Mistakes that are repeated almost daily are not mistakes. They are bad behaviors and habits. They need to be addressed and changed in order to grow. Mistakes have to be acknowledged, addressed, changed in order for those mistakes to stop happening.

Why is it important to make mistakes and learn from them and stop repeating them?

It makes 'everything' better in your life.

If you acknowledge a mistake and learn from the mistake, you are growing. You can adjust what needs to be adjusted and then find success in that area. And success can be peace, satisfaction, better relationships, financial success if it is directly related to the mistake you are trying to make, it can be anything that makes your life better... and if you are not spending so much time making the same mistakes, isn't your life going to be better then?

Making a mistake and learning from it allows others to see your growth. You can show others you have the ability to take a risk, learn from the success and failure of that risk, grow, encourage others to grow, and enrich others lives.

All that from a little mistake.

If you google 'successful people who made mistakes' you will see all kinds of results, including why making mistakes makes you a better person.

Limiting beliefs develop in us all. To overcome those limiting beliefs we need to look deep inside of us to determine why we are holding ourselves back from the best we can be. In a world where so many people struggle daily to find 'success' and a 'better life' or 'time for family, friends, and passions', isn't it time to remove those limiting beliefs?

Get Ready and Set to Go! 

Dannie